Finding self-love through selfies

Ask L.K. – Because life can get a little messy.

By L.K. ELLIOTT, Connect Columnist

DEAR L.K. I am super camera shy. I hate having my photo taken or having pictures of me shared on social media. It makes me feel uncomfortable, insecure and self-conscious. How can I overcome this, and be more “out there”?
– I Hate My Selfie

DEAR I HATE MY SELFIE:

Your hatred of taking photos sounds like a reflection of low self-esteem and confidence. This picture insecurity is much more than just skin deep. You’ll need to ask yourself a few questions, so you can begin to understand the root of the problem: When did this issue begin? Was there ever a time that you felt happy to take pictures. If yes, what would make you feel that way again? Do you have a favorite picture of yourself, and what do you like about it?

Make self-love your main focus at first, rather than picture taking, to overcoming this issue. The first step to establishing self-love is to stop criticizing yourself. Our self-talk is very powerful and so you must watch your thoughts to ensure they are empowering. Repeat the mantra: “I love and accept myself,” in your head, as many times as possible in a day.

You need to create the habit of picking out the things you like about your photos first and foremost. Just like anything else you can focus on the positives or negatives, and it’s entirely your choice.

Next, I’d start analyzing your old photos for a clear list of what you like and dislike. Be specific. You need to create the habit of picking out the things you like about your photos first and foremost. Just like anything else you can focus on the positives or negatives, and it’s entirely your choice.

To feel more confident taking pictures, you could practice posing and try some different facial expressions (look through pictures online for examples). I was really nervous for my first photo shoot last year, so I spent hours in front of a mirror practicing. This allowed me to experiment with my body and made it second nature to hit poses that are more flattering for my body type. It sounds ridiculous, but it really works. Practice makes perfect, so why not practice something that you’re not confident in?

It might sound a little overkill if you’re just taking selfies with friends, but knowing how to take your best possible photo will boost your confidence in this area. Then when the time comes and it’s time to give that megawatt smile, you’ll be ready to shine like the beautiful being that you are.

You will struggle to find the beauty in your pictures if you can’t clearly see the beauty within yourself. Be kind and encouraging to yourself, and choose to love and accept yourself unconditionally. And don’t forget to have fun, selfies are not meant to be serious business.

Sincerely, L.K.

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