Ask L.K. – Because life can get a little messy
By L.K. ELLIOT, Connect Columnist
DEAR L.K. – I just moved to Fort McMurray in August, and all I hear about is how hard it is to meet girls up here. Do you have any advice for dating in Fort McMurray?.
– Single and Ready to Mingle
DEAR SINGLE AND READY TO MINGLE:
Good question, and it entirely depends on what it is you’re looking for. Bars and “POF” are fine, if you’re looking to have fun. But, if you are looking for a relationship, a bar is the last place you want to go. Women like to go to bars to get dressed up, hang out with their girlfriends and dance. They aren’t there to be mauled by men.
If you want to meet women who you can actually connect with, I suggest picking up some hobbies. When you join a group, team or hobby you are naturally introduced to people who share common interests, and it’s a fun and inviting environment. Volunteer, get active, and have fun out there. Approaching a woman on your softball team, for example, is going to be way less intimidating or intrusive than trying to talk to her on the dance floor over loud music. You can start the conversation off in a friendly way and get to know her a little bit before making any moves.
Get out in the community and join some clubs that: a) interest you; and b) that will include women; and get mingling in that environment.
Get out in the community and join some clubs that: a) interest you; and b) that will include women; and get mingling in that environment. Even if the ladies on your teams or groups are married, they may have a friend who is single, and if you come across as a genuine person you may just get a referral.
If you don’t have any sports or hobbies you enjoy, there is always online dating. Despite it having a “less than best” reputation, it is a fine way to meet people that you normally wouldn’t run into otherwise. It’s also an easier way to filter out who you are seeking, and gives you an opportunity to get to know someone before that awkward first date.
Lastly, I encourage you to think of the person you’d like to be dating, and ask yourself: “What quality of guy would this woman want to date?” and start working on yourself to become a better version of yourself daily. Self-development can do no wrong, and will help you when you finally do meet the girl you’ve been searching for. Be sure you are in a good place mentally and emotionally, so when you do finally find a potential girlfriend, you have a solid foundation within to build a lasting relationship.
L.K. Elliott is a local fitness guru turned self-help author. Send questions to L.K. on Twitter: @lkelliott_
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