How to find yourself

Ask L.K. – Because life can get a little messy

DEAR L.K. – How do you find yourself? I’m going through a break up and my ex says I need to “do me”. I don’t even know where to start.
– Who Am I?

DEAR WHO AM I?

This is a beautiful moment in your life, despite the unfortunate circumstances that it may have stemmed from. Today is the beginning of your journey to find your authentic self. A breakup is a perfect time to get back in touch with yourself because all that effort we were spending on the other person in our relationship can now be invested – internally – into ourselves.

When we were children, we knew exactly who we were, what we liked, and what we didn’t like. We expressed our emotions and needs for love. We had big dreams and fully believed we could achieve them all.

When we were children, we knew exactly who we were, what we liked, and what we didn’t like. We expressed our emotions and needs for love. We had big dreams and fully believed we could achieve them all.

Through exposure to limiting beliefs and social pressure, we became disconnected to our authentic self. That disconnect creates lack of fulfillment, depression, and this feeling of hopelessness you’re experiencing about not knowing who you truly are anymore.

I recommend going back to where it all began, and begin reflecting on who you were before the world told you who you should be. Grab a journal and start writing down things that made you happy as a child. This may be hard to remember at first, because it has been such a long time since you thought about what truly makes you happy. Find hobbies that bring you joy and laughter.

Meditation is another wonderful tool for connecting to yourself. Find a guided meditation on YouTube or just sit in silence and take a moment to just be yourself in that moment. Focus on your breathing. You’ll feel refreshed, connected, and one step closer to realizing who you are.

Embrace this journey and don’t rush it. Each day will reveal more lessons about who you are within. Everything you’re seeking is within you right now, it’s just a matter of allowing yourself to be.

Embrace this journey and don’t rush it. Each day will reveal more lessons about who you are within. Everything you’re seeking is within you right now, it’s just a matter of allowing yourself to be. Everything you need to feel happy and fulfilled is within you too. All you have to do is open your heart and allow your true self to rise to the surface of your being.

Self-love is vital to finding your true, authentic self. Love and accept every little part of yourself that you discover, regardless of whether you enjoy it or not. For it is a part of you, and each part of you is what makes you so beautiful and unique.

Self-acceptance provides a safe environment for you to discover who you authentically are. Never judge or criticize yourself along this path. Forgive yourself completely for anything you’ve done in the past. You’ll need to be your own biggest supporter as you embark on this vulnerable journey. Peel back the layers of yourself day by day with love and kindness.

There will come a time when you look back and you’ll barely recognize yourself from who you are today. Celebrate that moment and officially welcome your authentic self into the world.

Sincerely, L.K.

L.K. Elliott is a local fitness guru turned self-help author. Send questions to L.K. on Twitter: @lkelliott_

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