ASK L.K. – Because life can get a little messy
By L.K. ELLIOTT, Connect Columnist
DEAR L.K. – I’m stressed out. I am unhappy in so many areas of my life right now, I honestly don’t even know where to start. I know I want to make some big changes, but am totally lost on how to go about making that first step in the right direction. This is important to me, but I keep procrastinating. Can you please help me?
– Stressed Out
DEAR STRESSED OUT:
Procrastination is almost always associated with fear. You are fearful of failure, of the difficulty of work involved, or possibly just afraid of how a new life might feel if you get there. The best way to bust through procrastination is by creating a solid game plan. Fear is often caused by lack of preparation. We feel unprepared so we fear moving forward. A comfort zone is a beautiful thing, but nothing ever grows there. So if you want to make some changes you’re going to have to choose to leave your comfort zone , and create change by doing things you have never done before.
We can’t continue doing the same things and expect a new result, that would be the definition of insanity. We also need to recognize that we cannot control our external situations, or other people, so all we can control is our own thoughts and perception of our life.
We can’t continue doing the same things and expect a new result, that would be the definition of insanity. We also need to recognize that we cannot control our external situations, or other people, so all we can control is our own thoughts and perception of our life. Choose to believe in yourself, and you’ve already won half the battle in personal transformation. You must invest in your-self if you want to change your life. Find a practise that brings you joy like a fun hobby. Find another that brings you peace like meditation or quiet walks in the Birch-wood trails. Find ways to connect with yourself on a deeper level so that you can cheer yourself on along this path to a new and improved life.
Pick one priority area in your life you’d like to work on, and begin studying self-improvement materials on that topic. Seek as much information on that topic as possible.
Pick one priority area in your life you’d like to work on, and begin studying self-improvement materials on that topic. Seek as much information on that topic as possible. The more information you acquire, the more prepared you will feel to take that area of your life on, and the less fear you will experience. Self-love is a full time job, so invest in yourself as much time as possible until you notice results. It is impossible to focus attention and effort on personal development and not see improvements. Have faith that in time your new healthier habits will become second nature. Your life will transform internally (mentally and emotionally), which will reflect your experiences externally.
When you have found peace in one area, give yourself a pat on the back and celebrate how far you’ve come, then pick the next area you’d like to improve on. You’ve done it once already, and you’ll know you can do it again. The meaning of life is to grow and learn as much as you can. Strive to be a better version of yourself each and every day and watch your life transform all around you.
L.K. Elliott is a local fitness guru turned self-help author. Send questions to L.K. on Twitter: @lkelliott_
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